It was touching to read about Erika Hurt, 25, in Hope, Indiana because she exemplifies actions, although not the same, we all have that can cause grief to those we love or are closest to us. Erika was found unconscious behind the wheel of her car because of a drug overdose. With needle still in hand and her 10-month old son crying in the back seat, the police report says she was administered two doses of the life-saving heroin antidote narcan. Following hospital treatment Erika was booked on charges of child neglect and possession of drug paraphernalia.
We are hearing that parents are doing things like this more often with helpless children in the car. It would seem the young children don’t disapprove or probably know what is going on. We could speculate that if Erika were asked if she loved her child she would reply with a passionate “yes”. It would not seem that way to most everyone else.
One thing we notice in situations like this is that our actions cause those we love to lose while we get what we want. It happens all the time with all kinds of actions. I have seen some very stressed family members of alcoholics. Then there are marriages where one partner is unfaithful or doesn’t want to be intimate while the other does. The family bread winner may supply the material needs of a family while neglecting them by working extraordinarily long hours. While the list could go on, in every case someone is more focused on self rather than the other.
So what is love? Someone with true love is one who performs an action knowing they could lose so that others might win. One might even think about measuring the strength of your love by how much you are willing to risk or give up that someone else might benefit.
The Bible tells us the very nature of God is love. It also says God considers love to be the greatest thing. Are you striving for what God considers best? Is there something in your life you need to change today? If you would like to talk, there are two methods of communication listed on this web site. We look forward to hearing from you.
Sometimes we don’t know when the school of life will be open to teach us a lesson but that is what happened to Sarah Bigler on an unassuming trip to Target. The event was so moving, she put it on a Facebook page which then went viral.
Sarah went to Target with her children hoping to run a quick errand. She quickly picked up the needed items and then scrambled to the checkout where she found a line with only one person ahead of her. After rapidly organizing her items on the conveyor, she looked up to find an elderly woman ahead of her. The elderly woman was paying for the items with change and wanted to purchase each item separately. When she saw this, Sarah was steaming inside after having a long workday, a screaming child in the cart and after setting too short a timeline for the errand.
The cash register employee helped the elderly woman count her change and then tenderly took it from her shaking hands. The old woman asked if she had enough money to buy something else and the register attendant helped her with the transaction, addressing her with respect and politely each time. That’s when Sarah realized that a complete stranger was teaching both her and her daughter a valuable lesson.
It’s interesting how many attributes of love were experienced in this event. The Bible says love is patient and kind. It also says love does not envy, boast, is not arrogant or rude and does not insist on it’s own way. It is neither irritable nor resentful. As you can see, a person who truly has love, puts the other person above themselves. Are you a person who knows how to love others?
Farid Fata, an oncology doctor from the Detroit Michigan area was sentenced to 45 years in prison for Medicare fraud. He was giving cancer treatment drugs to his patients, many of whom didn’t even have cancer. Medicare and private insurers were billed millions for medically unnecessary treatments. His victims lost their health, savings and trust. The health of hundreds of patients has been ruined for life and some died.
Chemotherapy is the act of administering poison to a patient. The poison is toxic to both cancer cells and healthy tissue. The doctor told some patients they had cancer when they did not to be able to bill for infusions. Those with cancer were given extended and unnecessary treatments. The toxic effects of the poisons has caused health issues and disfigurement that his patients will have to live with the rest of their lives.
When you read the news reports you immediately see the victims were emotionally charged in the courtroom. But what do we think about a professional, highly educated doctor who would treat others like this?
Tina Turner recorded a song, released in 1984, titled “What’s Love Got To Do With It “. It asks an interesting question given the circumstances. The answer is everything. The Bible tells us that love is the greatest thing and all God’s laws emanate from it. It says further that the two greatest commands are to love the God of the Bible with all your heart, soul and mind and to love your neighbor as yourself. If you love others as yourself you wouldn’t lie to them or harm them. You would attempt to meet their needs and carry their burdens even when it involves personal sacrifice. The doctor had much love but it appears to be misdirected toward self. Who do you love? Do your actions show it?