The financial planners, Scott and Bethany Palmer, wrote an interesting article on how children may pick up lying from observing their parents’ life experiences. It was found, according to Psychology Today, that most people lie once or twice a day. Other research indicates that men lie more often than women. Curious to find out why men lie more, the National Bureau of Economic Research did a study and found inconsistent parenting to be the cause. Parents lied 14% more in front of their sons rather than their daughters. In a test, parents lied 42% of the time in front of their sons during a coin game involving prizes. It’s not really known why parents lie more in front of their sons unless they are trying to impart more honesty onto their female children.
A child may think deception is ok when the father takes the child to a store, buys something for himself and then tells the child “mom doesn’t have to know about this”. When the child grows older they will often use this tactic on the parent by keeping information from them when they are concerned about repercussions about their actions.
Knowing that your spouse seems to always says “no” to anything you want to purchase or do, have you ever planted your desire as an idea in your child’s mind? The child will plead and beg for that vacation or new dog when all along it is the parent who really wants it. The spouse gives in because it’s coming from the child as an earnest request. You just taught your child how to manipulate others.
The Bible tells us to train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. To train your children you must have a way that you go. Have you chosen a way? Is it the right way?